People who bring emotional baggage into the workplace can be temperamental, ungrateful and rude. Even more frustrating is that they try to act out all their pent-up, misplaced emotions on the job without consideration for others. Employees and co-workers react to this, work efforts and results go by the wayside, and profit and productivity go down.
To bring your emotional baggage into the work place is inappropriate for all the reasons you may imagine. Yet employees, managers and business owners do it all the time.
The question is, how do you handle it? How do you keep emotional baggage out of the workplace?
Learn to leave it at the door. Decide that what you do in the workplace is your contribution – to yourself, your peers and the community. This is your opportunity to commit to what you are best at doing and get paid for it.
Many businesses like to say they are like a family. Be cautious if you are enticed by this. Employees, managers and business owners may manifest characteristics found in your personal family.
Why is this important?
What can happen is, you may take on the role that you do in your own family. If you are passive at home and come to work as a manager, what does that look like? Confusing at best.
When a passive person has to function in a different role on the job, they may revert and act like the aggressive parent. Potential can best be realized under a thoughtful and caring leader. Attempt to facilitate, to make it easy for everyone to achieve their best.
The basic rules of respect and acceptance apply. The Golden Rule is: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”, not: “Do it to them before they do it to you”.
Leave your unexpressed feelings at the door. Take a break if you become frustrated; know that you are at work to provide results.
Heal yourself first, determine your values, then you will be a better employee, manager or executive.
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