All you want is a little more. More money, more love, more fun, more friends.
So what happens when we don’t get what we want when the flow slows down or even
stops? You get mad, sad, and unhappy. You blame the president, the country, the war,
your mother, father, husband, wife, child, co-worker, anyone we can think of, even the
driver of that car who passed you on the freeway.
You find yourself stuck.
Stuck in the anger, stuck in the resentment, stuck in the fear of what will happen now.
You are stuck because there is no flow. As soon as you get angry or resentful or critical,
the flow shuts down. So you attract more stuckness.
Then you start defending your stuckness. Stop.
Stop defending your stuckness. The reason you defend your stuckness position is that
you want to be right about who you are and what you do. Being right then becomes
resistance. Being in resistance puts you in that rut of stuckness. A vicious circle.
The only way out of the rut, the only way to increase the flow of anything is to forgive.
Forgiveness is the process that opens the flow. Forgiveness lets your guard down from
defending your position. To let your guard down is the best place to be if you want more
of anything in your life.
If you are stuck, there is no flow, and you are someplace you do not want to be, there is
something you can do. If you want to be in another place or feel another feeling or act
another action, I have a secret. The secret is forgiveness – really.
Forgiveness gets you off your position of being right. Because your stuckness is really
about being right.
When you are right about something, you think you are in total absolute control. When
others defy your position by criticizing you or not giving you that contract you worked so
hard to get and think you deserve, you become stuck. This stuckness, this resistance,
stops the flow of anything, good or bad, from coming to you. You are so stuck that you
cannot think of a way out or a new direction. Forgiveness stops you for a minute. This
stop allows the flow of activity, of something other than righteous resistance.
Here is a simple, effective, clear way to get unstuck.
Start by making a list of all the people you have any issues with, or a feeling about, or a
criticism of. Maybe they did cut you off on the freeway. Maybe they didn’t keep their
word to you. Maybe they lied. Maybe they didn’t hire you for that job.
The more often you forgive everyone who you think has lied to you, ignored you, stood
you up, or did not keep their word to you, the flow will begin. Keep that journal out and
continue to forgive everyone on that list. Take the time for this exercise each and every
day until the flow begins.
Let forgiveness keep you on your path of unstuckness.
Let the flow of more money, more love, more fun, and more friends begin.
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