Do you often find yourself consumed by anger? Do you wonder why there are so many people dealing with anger today?
Anger issues arise as a result of supposed grievance to self, loved ones or your cultural or religious beliefs. Anger makes it difficult to create anything and it clouds ones’ mind. Anger is also irresponsible.
Why are so many people dealing with anger?
Why do people get angry at the slightest slip-up? Do you recall the last time someone cut you off in his or her car, cut in front of you in line at the store, maybe someone looked at you in a way you perceive to be threatening? Or maybe someone at work got caught up in using you as a verbal punching bag?
Nothing has truly hurt you, yet you become angry. Why?
Is it because…
1. Many people indulge their anger and nourish it by talking about it?
2. People do these things because they are afraid to act?
3. Some people are afraid to just take a stand, fearful to confront or deal with what is right in front of them?
They are content to live with their anger issues.
How anger affects your body and mind.
Long-term anger affects your nervous system, liver and your brain. You can become hypertensive, depressed, volatile even forgetful, People become mean-spirited, bullies, and descend into woeful acts.
Where are the brave individuals who take a stand, tell it like it is and are responsible for their lives and their emotions? Instead of being direct, people swallow their anger; it then becomes corrosive.
However, you also have to live with the anger of others. Like the Eeyore cloud, anger travels with the individual. Anger seems to be what has gripped our nation, our world. Until we release this anger it not only affects others it affects ourselves.
Anger can manifest itself in early heart attacks (we currently have more heart attacks in 30 and 40 year olds than ever before) liver disease, excessive everything – eating, drinking, and work.
Sometimes excessive play affects anger. Check out the popularity of extreme sports; they are a good sublimation for anger.
Stop dwelling on your past, your parents, and your stories. Just look at how you take responsibility for your own actions. It seems that many people do not. The contractor, who consistently shows up late, or not at all, makes you angry. This is to be dealt with, not ignored. It’s about choice, yours and everyone else’s.
It’s about respect. It’s about not reacting to everything.
Too many people get angry at work. Work is the worst place to expend anger. You spend most of your time at work, coming in contact with people who may set you off at the slightest drop of a hat, and still, you don’t know how to pick your battles.
Frustration can easily turn to anger if you decide to take this personally. Believe it or not, none of what occurs is personal. It is just that people do not know how to communicate what is going on in their heads. There are too many withholds, too much not said. There are just too many people who are not responsible or accountable for their actions.
So they pass the buck, and you’re it.
The effect anger has on you, your body, your family and your work is huge. Just read the daily headlines in your newspaper to see the results of rage and anger.
How to deal with anger – Anger management techniques:
1. Recognize anger for what it is. Is it big anger or little anger? Did someone physically attack you or just look at you sideways.
2. Decide if this event is an actionable item. Can you just say, hey, watch where you are going? Or, Let’s talk about this.
3. If you cannot do anything about it, let it go. I mean just let it go.
Refrain from repeating the event either to others verbally or to yourself by going over it in your head.
Letting go of anger may not be easy to do. However, the consequences of holding onto your anger can only make you unhealthy and less able to communicate any of your feelings. Choose to be healthy, responsible and talk to others instead of reacting to what they do.
“Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.” – Yoda
How do you handle anger on the job or in your relationships? Your input may help other readers. Need help? Ask Joanne a question here.