However, being selfish in this regard is about putting yourself first so others who do come to you for help will discover a satisfied, content individual who is ready willing an able to assist and support their needs.
You must create a life worth living. If that is selfish beyond repair, so be it, but I don’t think so.
There is no one else who can take care of your needs better than you, yourself, because no one else knows them as you do.
If you want to involve yourself in things that make you happy, what’s the harm? It is your life and you should be able to choose what you want.
I understand in relationships that the others’ needs and wants come into play, however, if you just bow down to those, where are you in the equation? Left out most likely.
If being selfish enough to be a happy human being works for you, do it. I know you will help others if they’re drowning yet if you do not have the confidence in yourself to put yourself first, what good will you be to others?
I think it is time to redefine the word ‘selfish’.
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